Assessing an Unhealthy Marriage
Many adults exhibit an unhealthy view of themselves, which undermines personal, spiritual, and relational development. Often, our struggles are not so much with the present issues of life as they are with the past issues of hurt, loss, and grief experienced during our childhood and adolescent years. We may become driven to prove ourselves or we just give up trying. We attach our worthiness to our relationships, accomplishments, and status, and we move away from the significance of who God is and how he ultimately meets all of our needs.
Whether we admit it or not, our marriages are profoundly affected by this unhealthy behavior. We may be struggling with issues from childhood, but those struggles are now taking a toll on our lives and the lives of others. Have you seen these situations affect your life and marriage in a negative way?
- Death of a loved one
- Substance abuse
- Physical abuse
- Emotional abuse (neglect and abandonment)
- Verbal abuse
- Sexual abuse
- Sexual immorality
If any of these issues are affecting your life and marriage, I urge you to seek the wisdom and counsel of someone who can help you navigate the roadblocks of your past. Don’t let the past dictate how your future unfolds.
Dr. Dale Goodman, Pastoral Counselor