How well do you think you know your marriage partner? It’s easy to assume you know your spouse better than anyone. But that’s not always the case. When life gets busy and maintaining order in your home takes all of your energy, your spouse and his or her feelings and needs are often the first to be forgotten.
Take a look at these questions. Do their answers come quickly and confidently? Or do you need to spend some more time getting to know your spouse?
- What kind of upbringing did your spouse have?
- How would you describe his or her parental relationships as a child? What about now?
- What kind of effect does your spouse’s relationship with his or her parents have on your relationship with each other?
- Has your spouse ever been seriously hurt in previous relationships? How did he or she work through these issues? What are the signs that he or she is still struggling with these hurts?
- When your spouse is hurting, what can you do to help him or her cope with or heal from these hurts?
- What are some things you or others do that reopen his or her wounds?
- What have you learned that will help you to be more loving toward your spouse?
Dr. Dale Goodman, Pastoral Counseling