Is it possible to love my spouse, even if I don’t always feel that love?
Love is a curious word that carries with it many different definitions. And for many in our culture, the main definition of “love” is a feeling. This can be detrimental to a marriage when those feelings begin to fade.
Most couples begin married life on a “honeymoon high,” but soon the honeymoon is over and life gets back to reality and back to our jobs, chores, bills, etc. Those feelings of love begin to wane causing us to question our love. We think something must be wrong. Where have all those loving feelings gone?
It is important to recognize that feelings come and go. You will not always feel like loving your mate. Love is so much more than a feeling word; it is an action word. It is choosing to step over the hurt, anger, indifference, selfishness, and pride so you are able to care, listen, forgive, and serve each other.
Dr. Dale Goodman, Pastoral Counselor