Love in Action Series: Learning Your Love Language

December 18, 2012 Comments Off on Love in Action Series: Learning Your Love Language
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           There are specific ways that individuals can express and experience love.  Through years of counseling and research, Dr.Gary Chapman, the author of The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate, identifies several primary love languages that can be expressed in a marital relationship. 

          I believe all of these love languages need to have some consistent expression for couples to have a significant marriage. Yes, there may be a stronger emphasis on some, but all of these have their place of importance.  Often couples miss it when it comes to empowering love and intimacy.  Yes, we think we know how to love another, yet it is clear, we are failing. 

 Most likely your primary love language will be different than your partners.  Your attempt to express love may not line up with the way your marriage partner receives love. This can result in frustration and eventually become destructive to your marriage. Therefore, it is vital to understand these primary love languages, as they can make all the difference in empowering a fulfilling marriage. 

 Could you be missing the mark? In the following information you will be able to identify several love languages.  When you finish these, proceed to identify yours and your partners love languages.

 

Identifying Your Love Language

Now it is time to identify your love language.  Which of these characteristics helps you to experience love?  There may be anywhere from one to three languages that you identify for yourself and your partner. 

 

  1. Which of these do you feel are being neglected in your relationship?
  • Words of Affirmation        _____
  • Quality Time                      _____
  • Receiving Gifts                  _____
  • Acts of Service                  _____
  • Physical Touch                  _____
  • Sexual Expression             _____
  • Spiritual Affirmation         _____

 

  1. Number in order what you think is your primary love language(s).
  • Words of Affirmation        _____
  • Quality Time                      _____
  • Receiving Gifts                  _____
  • Acts of Service                  _____
  • Physical Touch                  _____
  • Sexual Expression             _____
  • Spiritual Affirmation         _____

 

3.   Number in order what you think is your partner’s primary love language(s)?

  • Words of Affirmation  _____
  • Quality Time                   _____
  • Receiving Gifts               _____
  • Acts of Service               _____
  • Physical Touch              _____
  • Sexual Expression        _____
  • Spiritual Affirmation    _____

 

What are your primary love languages?

 

Self                                                                   Partner

1.                                                                      1.

2.                                                                      2.

3.                                                                      3.

 

 

Taking Action!

Which of your partner’s love languages have you been fulfilling and how?

 

 

 

Which of your partner’s love languages have been neglected and what will you do to be more responsive with their love language?

 

 

 by: Dr. Dale Goodman

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