In wedding ceremonies, we repeat vows. We pledge to love and honor each other, and we say “I do” to a lifetime commitment of this vow. In our hearts, we sincerely mean these vows, but do we understand the implications of the words we repeat?
Here are some of the lines from those vows:
“To have and to hold
From this day forward
For better, for worse
For richer, for poorer
In sickness and in health
To love and to cherish.”*
A great exercise for couples is to take the words from our vows and think about what they mean. Set aside some time to go through these individually. Write each phrase at the top of a separate piece of paper, and write how your marriage has lived up to the vows you made on your wedding day. Once you are each finished, take some time to share your thoughts with your partner.
*Excerpt from Church of the Nazarene Manual 2005-2009 (Kansas City: Nazarene Publishing House, 2005), 253.