Marriage

Love Talk gives you great insight into the conversations you have with your partner and what makes them go awry.  I found the section about self-talk the most beneficial.  Here, the Parrotts talk about how to structure your thoughts about your partner.  “Your internal dialogue, when you respect your partner, sounds like this: I’m so thankful he is my partner; I really admire the way she lives her life…I’m a better person because of my spouse. And when you respect yourself, your internal dialogue sounds like this:  I feel good about the kind of partner I am; I respect myself enough to let him know how I feel even if he doesn’t agree; I’m still worthwhile when I make mistakes; I need to be true to who I am…my partner is a better person because I’m in his life.”  This book has something for you no matter where you are in your relationship.  It is even applicable for those in dating relationships or engagements.

Parrott, L., & Parrott, L. (2004). Love talk: Speaking each other’s language like you never have before. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan.