Do You Think You Deserve Better?
Is happiness eluding you in your marriage? Think you deserve better? The words of author Gary Thomas keep coming back to me when I say or hear comments like this.
In his book Sacred Marriage Thomas has the audacity to ask the question “What if God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy?” While there are times when I don’t want to think that could be the case, I have come to believe God really may have our holiness in mind when He looks at a union between a man and a woman. It could very well be that being married to someone has greater implications than simply our immediate happiness.
As you look at the situation you find yourself in, rather than spending time thinking and planning how you could “bail,” ask God what He is trying to teach you through all of this. Perphaps there are greater lessons He has in store for you that you would never learn any other way. In this “instant gratification” world in which we live, too many people look for the quick and easy way out when things become uncomfortable. (Obviously, if your life is in danger, you need to take action.) And for too many of us, the phrase “irreconcilable differences” describes why we want out!
Would you take time to see what else God wants you to learn from your marriage? Would you let Him teach you? If you do, you just might prevent your family from becoming a divorce statistic. And by the way, studies have shown that couples who contemplated divorce but didn’t go through with it report being happier than ever five years later!
Happiness or holiness? The funny thing is, when holiness is pursued, a person often ends up with BOTH!